hmm. why do people always feel depressed over emotional matters? in order for a relationship to kinda materialise, its gotta start with 2 people liking each other in the 1st place. but, very often, its only either one sided, there's some other guy/guys, or both sides are confused.
i shall touch on one sided-ness first. One sided-ness happens when A likes B, but B isnt really attracted to A. so therefore its only A feeling for B, but not B feeling for A. Therefore, things get quite difficult for B, who has to put up with all the sickeningly sweet stuffs that A does for her. Not that she doesnt appreciate it, but its awkward. And naturally B would feel guilty, as she's sort of "leading" A on. B could tell A that she doesnt like him, but A would most probably say, "i will wait for u." and stuff like that. personally, i'm not sure if things would work out between A and B. but what i think is, just try to drop subtle hints to put him off, or if things get worse, just tell him its impossible. its hard not to consider his feelings when telling him the truth, but at least u will prevent him from being more depressed in the end. but as for IRRITATINGLY persistant people, just tell them, to Fuck off. =)
Ok next, the problem of the other guy/guys(or girl/girls). Everyone is bound to have people whom they have loved and liked before. Some forget easily, others find it lingering within them all the time. what i think is, if the person u like is constantly thinking abt her old flame, give her some time. approach her in a different manner, try to make her laugh, and play with her. if circumstance is good, have a good talk with her. find out more abt the other guy. BUT DO NOT PROBE. find out what she likes abt the other guy, and that will give u an advantage. share her problems, and share her joy. very soon, if nothing goes wrong, tadaa. =) (ps: Jealously is ABUNDANT in this kinda situation, so one thing to master is to curb ur jealousy NO MATTER WHAT)
Ok last part. the situation where both sides are confused abt each other's feelings. very often, that is just brought abt by insecurity and lack of communication. how do u like someone seriously if u dont even know what he's tryng to say? and miscommunication always ruins things. 2 people cant possibly go out on a date and smile at each other for the whole day. sure. u might like him, u might want to make an impression. but trust me, guys or girls relate better to more active or playful people. so for a start, treat him as a friend. when u find that u can talk to him EVEN WITHOUT THINKING ABT WHAT TO SAY NEXT, then u know u can take the next step. one thing to note, whoever ur partner is, he should not only be ur boy/girlfriend, he should be ur soulmate, ur bestest best friend, and someone whom u have no qualms sharing ur problems with. =)
hurhur. i think maybe next time i can be 1x marriage consultant. KEKEKEKE.
(to anyone who read this: i hope this helped. :) )